There are many definitions of success - often many even within ourselves. Life unfolds in chapters, especially when we’re having fun and/or evolving.
Many of us are living lives right now that our former selves - and even our ancestors - would get choked up witnessing. The growth, the elevation, the opportunities. So many people on this earth would give a great deal to live the lives we are living today.
If you’re not feeling that in your body, try a daily gratitude practice. Train your brain to notice and capture the things that should not be taken for granted.
And yet, there are also existential moments - those times when we know we are blessed, and still something has shifted… again.
Those of us who prioritize balance and progress tend to move through chapters where things feel peaceful, and then suddenly feel all wrong. It may look confusing from the outside, and it’s certainly uncomfortable on the inside. But once you understand the nature of the journey, you begin to prepare yourself for both states of being.
Progress requires leaving something behind in order to embrace what’s next. It involves discomfort, grief, acceptance, and savoring.
Discomfort arises when you are no longer content with your current experience of life. Nothing may have objectively changed, yet you no longer fit where you are. What once felt familiar now looks and feels strange.
Grief arrives - often painfully - when you realize something is over. Something that may have been beautiful, meaningful, and/or terrible. But it has ended, and you know you must let go, knowing you can never return. The grief often begins even before the chapter fully closes.
Acceptance brings an exhale. A softening of the shoulders. A quiet melancholy. It is what it is. It’s happening. And somehow, you trust that it will be okay - even if the road ahead is completely unclear.
Savoring comes when you are fully in it - two feet planted in the next chapter, the next mindset, the next understanding. You allow yourself to be there. You recognize that there was good and bad before, and there is good and bad now. But now is what you have. So you milk this moment for everything it uniquely offers, accepting the gift as it comes - wrapped in a beautiful or tattered bow.
The question I keep coming back to is this:
Do you respect how you are living right now?
Do you respect yourself in the choices you are making today?
We can live in our heads - judging whether something is good or bad for us - or in our bodies, sensing comfort or discomfort. But respect lives in our values. It’s about integrity. About being proud of, and owning, the life we’re living in all its complexity.
We feel “off” when what we think, what we believe and how we act are not in alignment.Do you smile to yourself when you think about how you are showing up in this moment?
Notice and express what’s alive in you. Journal. Make art. Talk to a friend or a therapist. Let out a visceral scream. Speak to yourself in the mirror. Find some way to name what you’re feeling and what meaning you’re making of it.
What way of life would earn your self-respect?
Notice what came up the moment we asked that question together. Write it down. Sit with it. Then go deeper - try to understand it more fully. Set an intention to move in that direction and - when you are ready - put into writing the small, doable steps you can take.
Respecting how you live is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. There is more to life than what we’ve simply gotten used to.
I wish you courage and clarity as you move toward your own definition of balance and progress.
Here’s to 2026.