1. “I don’t want to live like this.”
When dissatisfaction finally outweighs the benefit of the familiarity and predictability of the current situation. We all get something even out of the most dysfunctional situations, and it can feel untethering to leave. We also tend to fear the unknown much more than any horrid situation we’re currently experiencing.
2. Get curious about what else is out there.
This is the crack in the armor—the tiny ray of light that comes in.
3. Begin collecting information and doing research.
Have other people done this?
What would I need to have in place to do this?
4. Develop a mental goal of what you are aiming for now.
It’s not just about what you want to stop or get away from.
Once the imagination can visualize something hopeful, momentum picks up.
Now there is something to anchor to.
The visualization and daydreaming are often the most important parts.
5. Start taking small behavioral steps toward the vision.
We are often testing our own resolve and the support of the universe around us.
At the first taste of resistance—from ourselves, others, or the environment—most of us let go of the vision.
The good news is that most of us let go only for a moment and then reset to step one.
Eventually the hope for the future, or the frustration with the current situation, outweighs the discomfort of change again.
6. Create habits.
New behaviors, new ways of thinking, and new ways of managing our responses to people, places, and things that trigger our emotions begin to take shape.
7. The learning curve and personalization of the journey
With consistent self-forgiveness and the willingness to reset, we create a new life—
in our understanding of what is possible,
in our self-confidence,
and in our lived realities.
Where are you in the journey today?
Notice—don’t judge.
Be as fully present in this part of the journey as possible,
and begin setting your sights on the next steps.
Balance and Progress.
