“They have their dreams, their struggles and their journey. But I’m here too.”

I’ve heard so many express this in so many different ways. We often love, respect and admire the people we are supporting. And we can often feel like we just live in their shadows.

We might be the spouse, the significant other, the partner, the parent, the child, the auntie/uncle, the best friend. Without us, the one in the spotlight would not be able to do what they do.

We might even get an appreciation at times but there is no way to really feel whole when you are putting yourself second. Even if it is by choice. Even if it ends up benefitting you too. Even if you wouldn’t have it any other way.

Sometimes we question,

Is this good enough?
Am I being selfish?
What would I even do with myself if I could only focus on me?
How scary is it if I realize I am can’t or won’t ever realize my dreams?
Am I ok with not being the focus but playing the victim?
Why can’t I be satisfied, calm, fulfilled?