Really seeing ourselves (as we evolve) is a journey. Really accepting ourselves and loving ourselves and taking the best care of ourselves - which includes stressful progress and rest - is a journey.

Notice your patterns and habits.

"It is said that we can't attain enlightenment, let alone feel contentment and joy, without seeing who we are and what we do without seeing our patterns and our habits.

This is called maitri - developing loving-kindness and unconditional friendship with ourselves" - Pema Chodron